I attended the Healing after abuse: victim recovery lecture that was given on campus. It was so interesting. There were two people that spoke, Chelsea and Stewart.
Chelsea focused on how to recover as an abuse victim. By looking at her, I never would have known that she was an abuse victim. This was hard for me to grasp because I realized how ignorant I am. I don't know what I had in mind about what abuse victims would be like, but Chelsea did not fit my picture. She's white, a college graduate, probably from some middle class family and she looks happy. It would never be my first guess that she had been abused. I was reminded that everyone has their own story and it is complex. There is no one story to a person. There are multiple perspectives and aspects of a person's life that are not covered by just one story like we talked about in class. Victims of abuse are not defined by their abuse. It was so impressive to hear Chelsea open up just a little about her past and how she has been able to move forward.
Stewart focused on what parents and loving supporters can do to help victims. This experience opened my eyes to what happens in the world. I have some friends that have been victims of abuse and it is hard to understand their healing process. Chelsea explained that you cannot let others tell you when you should be done grieving. Stewart talked about this too. He explained that supporters cannot become the interrogators. People typically do not like to talk about their suffering and if they are asked the same questions over and over, they won't want to explain things when it matters (like to law enforcement). I think this is good to remember as a teacher. If a student approaches you saying that they are being abused, you have no need to ask questions but just report it and let the authorities take over. We talked about in the class that teachers just need to believe. There is no need to question, just believe your students. Have faith in them. Your job is to remember that this event does not define this person and to thank them for sharing with you what they have shared.
I am grateful I attended this lecture. I learned a lot about any type of relationship. I learned how important it is to retain a solid understanding of your divine nature. It is also essential to help others remember their divine nature and that abuse does not happen because that person did something wrong or because they deserved it. Every person has infinite worth and potential and teachers can remind students of this every single day in a safe classroom environment. I also learned that there is no stereotype for abuse, it happens between all races, ethnicities, socioeconomic statuses, genders. It would be wrong to dismiss someone's suffering because they don't fall under a specific category of "people who get abused" which is typically believed to be those in the low socioeconomic category or racial minorities with machista husbands. To believe that their is only one type of people that get abused is like passive racism. We can unintentionally assume things about people and be completely wrong. Abuse can happen to anyone. This lecture ties into multicultural education because abuse happens in all places, to all races, genders, SES etc. We, as teachers need to be aware of what's going on but we have no right to be interrogators. The classroom is a safe space where some students are probably escaping their real world problems, abuse being one of them. This was a great experience to have.
Chelsea focused on how to recover as an abuse victim. By looking at her, I never would have known that she was an abuse victim. This was hard for me to grasp because I realized how ignorant I am. I don't know what I had in mind about what abuse victims would be like, but Chelsea did not fit my picture. She's white, a college graduate, probably from some middle class family and she looks happy. It would never be my first guess that she had been abused. I was reminded that everyone has their own story and it is complex. There is no one story to a person. There are multiple perspectives and aspects of a person's life that are not covered by just one story like we talked about in class. Victims of abuse are not defined by their abuse. It was so impressive to hear Chelsea open up just a little about her past and how she has been able to move forward.
Stewart focused on what parents and loving supporters can do to help victims. This experience opened my eyes to what happens in the world. I have some friends that have been victims of abuse and it is hard to understand their healing process. Chelsea explained that you cannot let others tell you when you should be done grieving. Stewart talked about this too. He explained that supporters cannot become the interrogators. People typically do not like to talk about their suffering and if they are asked the same questions over and over, they won't want to explain things when it matters (like to law enforcement). I think this is good to remember as a teacher. If a student approaches you saying that they are being abused, you have no need to ask questions but just report it and let the authorities take over. We talked about in the class that teachers just need to believe. There is no need to question, just believe your students. Have faith in them. Your job is to remember that this event does not define this person and to thank them for sharing with you what they have shared.
I am grateful I attended this lecture. I learned a lot about any type of relationship. I learned how important it is to retain a solid understanding of your divine nature. It is also essential to help others remember their divine nature and that abuse does not happen because that person did something wrong or because they deserved it. Every person has infinite worth and potential and teachers can remind students of this every single day in a safe classroom environment. I also learned that there is no stereotype for abuse, it happens between all races, ethnicities, socioeconomic statuses, genders. It would be wrong to dismiss someone's suffering because they don't fall under a specific category of "people who get abused" which is typically believed to be those in the low socioeconomic category or racial minorities with machista husbands. To believe that their is only one type of people that get abused is like passive racism. We can unintentionally assume things about people and be completely wrong. Abuse can happen to anyone. This lecture ties into multicultural education because abuse happens in all places, to all races, genders, SES etc. We, as teachers need to be aware of what's going on but we have no right to be interrogators. The classroom is a safe space where some students are probably escaping their real world problems, abuse being one of them. This was a great experience to have.